9/17/2023 0 Comments Is zillya good![]() This is supported through being witnessed and deeply listened to via council style sharing. OF MUTUAL BENEFIT encourages us to move from fight/flight/freeze/withdraw to seeking connection through tend and befriend. After two years plus of global pandemic, combined with aspects of modern living that foster isolation not only from each other but also the more-than-human world, we have less contact at a time when we need each other more than ever before. At its simplest…we are social animals that have evolved to come together to feel safe and secure. It is the miraculous coming together of people that we often see in response to catastrophes like hurricanes, wildfires or earthquakes (and it is also part of the impulse to check social media). But have you heard of Tend and Befriend?Įssentially, Tend and Befriend is the impulse to reach out for connection and social comfort when stressed or in danger. We’ve all heard of Fight, Flight and Freeze - those beautiful and immediate ways our nervous system tries to keep us and others safe when confronted with real or apparent danger. ![]() This co-counseling program is a form of mutual aid, and is based on our own nervous system specifically our most recently evolved stress response. Resilience, hope and empowerment is within reach. While your anxiety and grief is part of your wholeness, it does not have to be your primary experience. Nonetheless, this is also what starts to happen when we begin the process of befriending our experience. Coupled with an internal sense of alarm, it can be difficult to see how anything else IS possible. While feeling emotionally bludgeoned is understandable, this can also be fueled by fatalistic and entrenched storylines (perpetuated in great part by media) that “We’re F*cked”. OF MUTUAL BENEFIT offers practices and tools for resilience while also seeking to strengthen social connections, community and emotional intelligence. Yet, we are all in this together, and I see this as our strength. Dominant powers benefit from a populous that is overwhelmed and disempowered. It is also appropriate and is a normal response, when witnessing injustice and violence towards people and planet - whether this stems from racism, climate change, political chicanery, ecocide, genocide, the dehumanizing aspects of Capitalism, or truthfully, the intersectionality of it all. The anxiety, grief, rage and overwhelm you may be feeling as you consider our collective present and future can be difficult, painful and frightening. ![]() If you have found yourself here (and welcome!), then you - like so many others - are trying to find your way through The Psychology of Now. OF MUTUAL BENEFIT is a no-cost, four part series, for you and a partner, to explore, co-support, process and find resilience through the distress, overwhelm, anxiety, grief, rage etc.
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